#3: "Showing up" can mean 100%

One of the biggest takeaways I had - and maybe it's now a bit of my rallying cry - is to SHOW UP. The famous quote by Woody Allen is "80% of success is showing up." I wholeheartedly believe that's true, but also not exactly what I'm talking about here. I used to always have to wonder if my ex-husband was going to literally show up - was he going to come, was he going to do what he said he'd do (No. The answer was no.), was he going to be there for me. I was constantly feeling uneasy and unsure until the time came and went, knowing I couldn't count on him. There were days that I could barely breath, overcome with anxiety from the not knowing. Coming to realize that the only thing consistent was his inconsistency.

I came to cherish the people who I knew would "show up" for me. Who would answer the phone, who would come over just to be there, who told me the truth even when it hurt, who kept their word. These were the people who came to help me pack when I, against all my will and through so many tear-filled days, finally broke down and sold my house. These were the people who sat down with me for hours over so many weeks to make check-lists, ensure my finances were protected and in order, and passed along resources - whether that was a recommendation, a meal or a hug.

I learned the value of someone who shows up for you - and that I always wanted to be someone who showed up for my people. In every way. Just be there - honest and trustworthy. Be someone that can be counted on. Keep your word. Go out of your way. And take note of who shows up for you - those are your real friends. So Woody's 80% might lead to success, but you showing up for your squad can make 100% of the difference to them.